There is nothing as beautiful as watching a couple read their own vows. This moment is usually passionate and the couple often cries a few tears. This motivates many couples planning their wedding to want to do the same. The snag you’ll however soon discover is that it is not that easy.
If you’re planning an NYC Zoom wedding, you’ll find yourself feeling even more flustered. You see even when you’re a wordsmith, putting your genuine emotions down can be hard. So how then do they do it? How do couples write those heartwarming promises of love to each other? As your NYC Virtual Wedding Officiant, I’d love to help. So, here are some tips on how to write your own customized wedding ceremony vows.
Waiting until weeks or days before your NYC Zoom wedding to write your own vows is a bad idea. You’ll feel a lot of fear come crashing down the moment you try to pick up a pen. You also need time to edit and rework your vows to make them perfect. If you procrastinate until it’s almost too late, you won’t have that.
Once you get started, there’s a chance you’ll run out of things pretty quickly. Don’t worry, lots of other couples go through the same. One trick to help you avoid this is by using questions. They’ll act as prompts to keep your words flowing. Some questions you can that will help prompt your thoughts are:
What is special about what you both have?
Why did you propose\say yes?
What future do you see for you both?
Just like your wedding, movies and books have themes, your vows can too. It’ll help tie everything you say together, making for an amazing NYC Zoom wedding vow. To find the perfect theme for your wedding vows, think of what best represents your relationship. Is it passion, unconditional love, or humor? When you find your answer, base your vows on that.
It is so easy to become the biggest critic of your work. Don’t let that stop you from writing your vows. There is always time to edit and change some places or even all. Get started and see how far you go. You also have to understand that writing your own customized vows is a process.
Your NYC Virtual Wedding Officiant will probably use all the clichés when it comes to weddings at your ceremony. Don’t let the same terms be found in your vows. Your guests and spouse already know that love is patient and love is kind. Give more details about what love means to you as a couple instead.
Writing your vows will soon have you feeling passionate and emotional. Try to avoid making promises that are impossible to keep in there. For example, don’t promise to get your wife her favorite candy every day for the rest of your lives. What happens when you can’t find it anywhere?
A great NYC Zoom wedding vow is between 390 to 650 words. This should last around three to five minutes when you are speaking it. It will be challenging to make everything so concise, but it’s for the better. You’ll discover that your vows are more engaging and meaningful this way.
Write your wedding vows in a place where you can get inspiration. It could be where you had your first date or where you first kissed. Putting yourself in such a romantic and beautiful place will make your vow writing easier.
Last but not least, all brilliant speakers will tell you that practice is important. You don’t want to look nervous reading your vows in front of your spouse. Try reading them to a trusted friend as practice until you get good at it. Then not only will you have amazing vows, but you’ll also read them in the best way possible at your NYC Zoom Wedding. Best of luck!